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I was introduced to my good friend whom I will call Theresa a couple of years ago and we have been quite the pair ever since. We are totally different in almost every way, but somehow our friendship works and we have remained friends through all sorts of strange shenanigans. Not too long ago she started dating one of her fwb’s and they have been pretty inseparable since. They are now what we like to refer to as “my domestic partners”. We regularly party together when I am in town, which typically would end after some amazing food (either her boo would could or we would hit our favorite late night spots downtown), and then in the morning we wake up and get coffee and brunch and start the day anew.
We always have an amazing time and they love listening to my whirlwind of dating and traveling stories and discussing hot topics. They know all of the bartenders and bouncers at the local clubs and bars downtown and we easily walk straight into every place we go, with discounted and often free cocktails to match. I Snapchat everything that goes on and usually get danced on and made fun of for whatever bad things are going on in my life at the time. We all benefit from the trio as I seem to be a distraction from their regularly scheduled program of kids and responsibilities and they help me take the edge off of the harder things in my life and it helps that they are absolutely hilarious. They are honestly two of the only people whom I can talk to explicitly about anything and they will listen (totally judgement-free) and fully participate in the conversation, all while relating to whatever it is and making me laugh. We really could have our own TV series between the things that go on in my life on a regular basis and their ridiculous parodies and remarks.
I truly appreciate the fact that sometimes you can be friends with someone and they find someone they love and your relationship with them does not change, it in fact grows and you have just as much fun, if not more with their new addition. That’s true friendship. It’s family. The other reason I know it’s family is because I know that I can’t just bring any ol’ guy to hang out with us- they are going to expect the best for me and from me because they care. *I later found out from Theresa that she told her boyfriend when they first started seriously dating that he would have to get along with any of her friends in order for their relationship to be effective. I was stunned when I found this out and commended both her for speaking up for what was important to her and for him for honoring her request. #coolpoints It also made me realize that when we ask for something and we have found someone who truly respects and loves us, they will do their best to appease us and it will ultimately make everyone happy. Cheers to that my friends, and cheers to partnerships that stay true to themselves and those around them.
Have you ever had a friend who didn’t do the typical “I’ve got a boo now, so bye” deal when he/she got into a serious or fwb relationship? Isn’t it fantastic when a guy can join your normally female party and you can all have fun together? I feel like sometimes we don’t stick together as strong friends when we get serious or boo’d up with someone. If you are in a relationship right now and migth be neglecting some of your single or old buddies, I challenge you to hit them up for a drink, a fancy latte, or a lap dance at your local spot. Don’t forget who was there for you when it was just you #justsayin. Keep your friendships alive because you might need bridesmaids one day, a babysitter, or a shoulder to cry on and if the friendship went dead as soon as you went steady then you might just be left in the cold. And for those of you on the other end of that, feeling left out in the dark- reach out to the “now busy” friend and say hello, then go out and meet some new friends who share a few common interests. You can never have too many buddies y’all. #doit And let me know how good it feels after.