Had major problems being patient - Whitney Danielle
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Had major problems being patient


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I have always had issues with waiting. Waiting in lines… waiting in traffic… waiting for a call back about a job or from a new guy… waiting to open my birthday presents… waiting for my turn to speak… It. Sucks. I remember when I was younger and my parents would try to explain the positive aspects of waiting for things and now as I am older, I understand more how waiting for something and being patient is sometimes a lot more fun than whatever it is you’re waiting for. Anticipating that holiday bonus is fun because when you know it’s coming, you know you are going to be happy as hell when it hits your bank account. Sure, you want it right now, but that’s why bonuses are so great –¬†they aren’t always promised and you don’t always know how much they’re going to be, let alone when they’ll bless your bank account balance.

I recently read an article on the science and studies done on anticipation as it correlates to happiness and if instant gratification is indeed what we all really want and like. Planning a fun party, for instance, can be way more fun than the actual event itself as well as the memory of the party after it is over. However, I feel as if there are some things that are much harder to get excited about waiting for… dental exams, CT scan results, that big meeting with your boss during layoff season, when your car is in the shop (and you know it’s going to be expensive), etc. Waiting for some things just flat-out sucks.

In my journeys recently, I’ve found that even in the worst, most annoying waiting periods, you can choose not to be miserable and for it not to encompass every cell and follicle on your body while averting your mood down a negative spiral to hell. Traffic? I’ve turned it into a huge music/dance party OR I use the time to listen to my Audible books that I can’t listen to when I have the urge to blare EDM or gangster rap music down the 805. Waiting for a guy to hit me up or ask me out? I barely even notice when I’m not being hit up by someone I like anymore because I am busy doing WHITNEY. And even though it’s hard to wait sometimes when you’re bored or procrastinating or purposefully deflecting your energy to distract from doing important work, if they’re not hitting you up, let it be and let it go. I have learned to regularly remind myself of how awesome I am and how other people are busy and how I control the lack I perceive in my life, and I keep it moving. I let go and I let God. I let go and quit worrying about it. I typically don’t have the time or stamina to go crazy, plus it isn’t fun or sexy and I’d rather be doing something fun or sexy since I’m a balanced grown up and all… The more I think about how my package might get lost in the mail or how my pap smear might come up abnormal, the more negative energy I attract to it. So, I practice remaining detached from any outcome, but 100% expect the outcome I desire in my heart of hearts. That’s grown up Whitney for you and boy does it feel so much better.

Have you ever been so impatient you could literally see yourself going loco and spiraling out of control? How can you be more patient… right now? I know that line at Target can get unnecessarily long (seriously, why?), but how can you make the most of it? Maybe picking up a Health Magazine while standing next to your cart? Maybe getting some nourishing and uplifting tea from Starbucks first and sipping that and smiling at the kid in front of you? Writing a to do list for the following day on your phone? I’m not saying completely busy yourself to the point of overwhelm and exhaustion, I’m just saying relax and breathe and prepare and utilize instead of worrying. Do everyone a favor and focus on your goals and where you want to be this month. We both know you have stuff to do that’s important. How can you wisely use your time this afternoon or this evening to make your own life easier? **Bonus points for those of you that can use your time to make someone else’s life easier or better by using your own time efficiently. Writing thank you notes, randomly sending a relative an e-card, grabbing someone some flowers at the farmer’s market while you’re waiting on your panini, walking a friend or neighbor’s dog when they’re sick (get your steps in girl), and smiling at strangers #strangerdanger. Let me know what you end up accomplishing this week that you never would have if you had just farted around and waited until the last minute to do it. I can’t wait!… (pun intended)

1 Comment

  1. I could feel the excitement of your revelation. Great tips Kudos to you.

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